31 Aug 2020

Child-like vs Childish

Posted by Lisa

“Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.” (Matthew 18:3

“We need to be childlike in order to understand more and see the World around us with a perfect clarity” ― Isabella Koldras, True Believer.

I was reminded this morning about being child-like. Why, first of all do I want to be like a child? Because this conjures up redeeming qualities of ourselves that express inherently positive characteristics. Children are usually loving, spontaneous, quick to forgive, trusting, uninhibited, and full of belly laughs. Do we as adults loose these qualities as we get older. It begs the question; how do we become child-like, not childish as full-grown adults and reignite these positive qualities?

As a teacher I am consistently researching information to incorporate in my business, classroom, and endeavor to continue refining my personal development. This repertoire of knowledge has propelled me to grow and to expand my sphere of influence in creating well-being. Through this self-exploration, I have been asking some truly profound questions. Who am I, why am I here and what is my purpose? In order to find the answers to these questions, it required me to go on a journey. As it would turn out, this was not an ordinary trip. I would have to go back to the point of origin, to where it all started. Was there emotional pain or false beliefs that were preventing me from answering these questions?

I remember hearing about a concept of the wounded inner child. It is an exercise we can utilize, and it remains for me one of the most transforming moments of my life. We first see the world through the eyes of a little child and that inner child remains with us throughout our life no matter how outwardly grown up and effective we appear to become. If our vulnerable child was hurt abandoned shamed or neglected that child’s grief and anger continue to live on within us. This is so powerful to know and understand. We see so many adults now acting out the hurt abandonment the shame and neglect that they suffered as children.

This exercise changed the way I felt about myself and the way I looked at the world. Each time I go through this, I learn something new about myself. Imagine peering through the window of your childhood home. Go to the window of the house you grew up in and look inside. Find yourself in that house and ask yourself; what is it that you remember? When you take a good look at your life as a child, what is it that you see and more importantly what do you feel? What’s going on with you and your relationships with everyone in that house? What gifts did you possess that others may have overlooked or missed? What burdens were you made to carry and what brought you hope? What made you sad or happy? I believe that healing the wounds of the past is one of the most hopeful endeavors we have in our lives. When we rekindle the innocence and hope that precedes our pain, we are free to truly live more fully in the present.

We must humble ourselves as little children so that we can again become teachable. I saw a post on Facebook recently that talked about frolicking. The definition of frolic is to play and move about cheerfully, excitedly, or energetically. In the post the person said: “I frolicked for the first time today. Y’all ever frolicked before? Why has no one ever told me about this?” Maybe our creative side was extinguished as a child or we cannot remember how to play or frolic. In the midst of the play, I’m reminded of all the beautiful qualities children bring into the world. Just for today, I will play as a child, once again reconnect to who and what I am and finding my true purpose. Namaste

My heart is not proud, Lord, my eyes are not haughty; I do not concern myself with great matters or things too wonderful for me. But I have calmed and quieted myself, I am like a weaned child with its mother; like a weaned child I am content. Psalm 131:1-2

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    Lisa Healthy Hazelgrove

    Wellness Education with a side of Energy

    Health & Wellness Educator that has a passion for educating others on how to create balance in their lives so that the body can heal itself naturally. I have been in the Wellness Industry for 17 years and specialize in nutrition and sleep. My focus is on empowering others to take control of their health and in 2008 I began teaching as a Wellness Instructor at the University of Richmond. My health journey began 17 years ago when I was on 10 prescribed pills a day, had no energy and was 70 lbs heavier. I decided to empower myself and take a proactive approach towards my life and create a wellness home for myself and my family.

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